Suicide Prevention Month: From Loss to Advocacy – A Daughter's Perspective
As we step into September, a month dedicated to raising awareness about suicide prevention, I find myself wearing many hats: a mother, sister, auntie, doula, yoga teacher, and advocate. Yet, I carry within me the enduring memory of losing my own mother to suicide. Today, I want to share my journey and the profound impact it's had on me and the work I choose to do, especially in supporting those with strained relationships or those who've lost their mothers. A recent family experience has filled my heart with joy and sadness, reinforcing the importance of life, memories, and the harrowing toll of suicide on both those who suffer and those left behind.
Recently, my cousin welcomed a beautiful baby into the world. Hearing how she was supported and surrounded by her partner, sister, and her Mom (My Aunt – my mother's sister) throughout her pregnancy and childbirth journey. Tears of happiness welled in my eyes because every individual deserves such unwavering support during this transformative time. My family being together for these special and meaningful moments filled me with immense joy.
However, my joy was tinged with grief, a poignant reminder of the experiences I never got to have. The absence of my own mother during my journey into motherhood left an irreplaceable void. It's a pain that those who've lost a loved one to suicide understand all too well. The moments we wish we could share, the conversations left unspoken, and the support we long for become a constant reminder of what could have been.
In the midst of this complex mix of emotions, I've come to realize the profound importance of cherishing life and memories. Life is fragile, and each moment is a gift. The memories we create with our loved ones are precious and serve as a lifeline to those we've lost. They are a testament to the love and connection that transcends time and space. Suicide is a deeply painful and complex issue. It exacts a heavy toll on both those who suffer and those left behind. For individuals battling inner demons, it can feel like an agonizing journey with no way out. For those who have lost a loved one to suicide, the pain is a constant companion, an ever-present reminder of the depth of their loss.
My journey as a daughter who lost her mother to suicide has transformed me into an advocate for mental health and suicide prevention, especially in the realm of pregnancy, birth and postpartum. In my work as a doula and yoga teacher, I often encounter clients who have strained relationships with their mothers or have faced the heartache of losing them for various reasons. Through our shared experiences, we create safe spaces to process their emotions, heal, and find strength in vulnerability.
As we navigate Suicide Prevention Month, I am reminded that my journey, like so many others', is marked by both sorrow and resilience. It has reinforced the importance of supporting those who suffer, but it has also heightened my commitment to continuing to breaking the stigma surrounding mental health.
Life is precious, and memories are a treasure trove of love. While suicide leaves an indelible mark on those it touches, it is possible to turn that pain into advocacy, support, and hope. Let us honour the memory of our loved ones by promoting awareness, understanding, and compassion.
Together, we can create a world where no one feels alone in their struggle, where memories are cherished, and where life is celebrated in all its beauty and complexity.
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